Men: You Don't HAVE to Have it Together 24/7

literature embodies an uncomparable artistic ability of expression. from the most ancient literatures to more contemporary classics, the written word has given us fictional perceptions of how a certain character should look, speak and act.

whether hercules or hades.

zeus or tritan.

tutankhamen or henry the eighth.

whether mr darcy or batman.

men are presented as figures of wealth, knowledge, stature, physical strength and mental robustness.

but that quire frankly is not the case. it should it have ever been the case, but more so now than ever its important to start recognising that men too have emotions that are the same if not more potent than that of a womans.

As of 2015, almost two-thirds of worldwide suicides (representing about 1.5% of all deaths) are committed by men. Further still are more frightening statistics... As only two years later (standing at three years prior to this annum), in 2017, nearly 6000 suicides were recorded in Great Britain. Of these, 75% were men. Suicide is the largest cause of death for men under 50. 

In England, around one in eight men has a common mental health problem such as depression, anxiety, panic disorder or obsessive compulsive disorder (OCD). And that is still only the crystalline tip of the ice berg... we have to go deeper.

  • Three times as many men as women die by suicide.2

  • Men aged 40-49 have the highest suicide rates in the UK3.

  • Men report lower levels of life satisfaction than women according to the Government’s national wellbeing survey4 .

  • Men are less likely to access psychological therapies than women: only 36% of referrals to NHS talking therapies are for men5.

  • Nearly three-quarters of adults who go missing are men.2

  • 87% of rough sleepers are men.2

  • Men are nearly three times as likely as women to become dependent on alcohol, and three times as likely to report frequent drug use.2

  • Men are more likely to be compulsorily detained (or ‘sectioned’) for treatment than women.6

  • Men are more likely to be victims of violent crime (1.5 more likely than women.7

  • Men make up the vast majority of the prison population. There are high rates of mental health problems and increasing rates of self-harm in prisons.2

So with all this in mind... why don't we talk about mental health in men?

Societal expectations and traditional gender roles play a role in why men are less likely to discuss or seek help for their mental health problems. We know that gender stereotypes about women – the idea they should behave or look a certain way, for example – can be damaging to them. But it’s important to understand that men can be damaged by stereotypes and expectations too.

Men are often expected to be the breadwinners and to be strong, dominant and in control. While these aren’t inherently bad things, they can make it harder for men to reach out for help and open up.

From an entirely neurological standpoint also, men and women have totally different brains in regatds to their neural pathways, neuro communicative agendas and neurological foundations in hormone and chemical balancing. Thus, there is discretion and consideration as to whether men are even capable of speaking openly about their emotions in the same way that women do. Almost as though it is a skill to be learnt. They may well be less able to recognise symptoms of mental health problems in themselves, and thus are less likely to reach out for support. 

How can we build a better network for men?

As someone who firmly believes in equality, love for all anf most importantly of all: self love, I am here with laitmylk to bring you MEN worksheets specific to you yo fill in, print and process to help you work through your struggles when and if you feel unable to access external help.

Understanding yourself, recognising your problems and being able to personally process the issues at hand is the first step of many towarda a journey of honey tinted light and rose scented bliss in your life.

Your life does not deserve to be bleak.

Your life does not have to be charcoal smeared.

Your life can be bright... and,

Your life can be a paintbox of warm tones and colours cool - ALL in unison.

Worksheets will be available for print and download from laitmylk for FREE as of this afternoon (Sunday 22nd November 2020), all created by Darcy Bucci Keverian for laitmylk.

Love always




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