The Colander Model: How to Provide Just The Right Amount of Support

My latest therapeutic concept: The Colander Model

This is based on the theory of attachment, and the infamous love/lust hormone oxytocin and how it may have a role in instilling autonomy, individuality but maintaining support within a family-carer unit for the recoverer.

Just like a colander... we should support the person to 'wash away' the bad, keep the good, but not so much so that we remove autonomy and the ability to make their own decisions and hold accountability/responsibility for their future progression into wellness and recovery in life.

A more in depth explanation for those that like to read... If you want to just look at the infographics, scroll to the bottom to start the slide-show!

THE COLANDER MODEL ™️ is a therapeutic approach based on the understandings developed by John Bowlby’s Theory of Attachment, in coercion with the belief and installation of positive psychiatry, and support systems within a patients immediate communicative circle.

The model aims to educate those who are part of the immediate care/support system of a patient to act as a filtration system, just like a colander, whereby they will help the recoverer filter out the bad from the good of their struggles, supporting their good assets and traits, whilst ‘washing off’ the negative elements from their current predicaments. The model does not aim to make the patient feel ‘lesser than’ or weak, and works to encourage the thought process that they are capable of maintaining wellness and responsibility for their condition, with support when required.

Metaphorically speaking, this model demonstrates to family members (the colander) that they cannot and should not do all of the work for the patient (the food item), and that they will have to take some responsibility for their recovery process as well.

The colander is part attachment, providing support and connection to grow into better selves, but also instills autonomy and individuality. Taking a more neurological approach to the comprehension of support and it’s affect on the brain, if we provide support through love that we have established with the individual (from birth: the theory of attachment), then there will be a presence and release of the biochemical oxytocin. Oxytocin is a peptide hormone that plays a significant role in social bonding pre and post sexual reproduction into childbirth. This love, lust and labour neuropeptide is something of a love hormone: and it’s this love that will work to coat the recoverer whilst ‘in the colander process’, of washing away negativity, but without jeopardising the belief and attachments they have with family members to potentially come to think that they are a burden or a grievance. We’re working with the oxytocin already engrained in between existing relationships to ensure that we are providing love and support to the recoverer, but not so much so that we remove autonomy and individuality, or break neural pathways to think negatively about themselves.

THE COLANDER MODEL ™️ in summary, is a perfect analogy for carers and support givers of those with mental health conditions to be the force that both supports, and let’s go in harmony. #mentalhealthmatters #mentalhealthawareness #mentalhealth #mentalhealthquotes #mentalhealthinspiration #recoveryinspirations #positivevibes #motivation #oxytocin #neuroscience #neurobiology #psychiatry #psychology #psychotherapist #recoveryispossible #recovery #edrecovery


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